Hurricanes are one of those disasters that have a season. Changing weather systems rise up and the resulting storms over the ocean are full of power. The impact of these storms is often felt by coastal inhabitants in the form of raging wind and sometimes flooding. If the storm makes landfall and the might of the entire system is felt by those living near the coasts, the effects on communities can be devastating. Like many natural disasters, there is often some warning that the storm is coming, but it is difficult to predict the outcomes and what the damage will be. In many cases the rebuilding trajectory is long as people wait for power to be restored, wait to return to their homes, wait for insurance claims to come through, wait for new structures to be built, the list goes on.
Lament and remembrance may be particularly helpful disciplines to practice after surviving a hurricane. Writing a personal lament or one on behalf of the community helps give voice to the emotions accompanying the loss. The ICTG resource guide for Spiritual Directors contains guidelines and suggestions for creating a personal lament. Practicing remembrance may look like creating a memorial, story-telling, or simply lighting candles to represent individual losses. Being a spiritual director after a disaster is truly walking with survivors through the Valley of the Shadow of Death. Helping to make space for very real and present grief to be vented allows the beginnings of hope to be restored.
Guidelines for creating a personal lament:
- Address the lament directly to God using a name, title, or image that is meaningful to the directee and specific to the context. A powerful practice can be exploring together, in the context of this most recent crisis, what name is most meaningful and specific and whether the name has changed from previous times of prayer or remains the same, and why.
- The body of the lament is made up of expressing to God the painful content of one’s experience and memories and related emotion(s). This is a complaint, a description of the offense suffered addressed to the One with top responsibility. (e.g. “I was hurt in ________ way and I feel _________ that you did/did not __________ the disaster or loss.”)
- It is also appropriate for the lament to contain supplication, including a request, or multiple specific requests, for response from God. This may be an appeal for broadly scoping healing, justice, or repair for self or community. Or it may be as acute as, “I need you to bring relief in the midst of my debilitating flashbacks.” This is an opportunity to cry out in honesty for intervention from God. One scriptural example some directees have found helpful is the passages of Hagar speaking to God while in the desert in Genesis 16 and Genesis 21.
- In conclusion, it may be helpful for some directees to include an expression of their faith commitment, or some statement of praise or thankfulness. This particularly is helpful for directees who are uncomfortable expressing painful feelings toward God. The inclusion of a statement about praise is optional, as some directees may not yet be ready to experience or voice gratitude.
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Erin Jantz received her Master’s Degree in Spiritual Formation and Soul Care from the Institute for Spiritual Formation. She also holds a B.A. in developmental psychology and has furthered her education with trainings in trauma care from Boston University and intensives with Dr. Bessel Van Der Kolk. She has been practicing spiritual direction since 2012, helped to author ICTG's Spiritual Formation Resource Guide, and also teaches and speaks on a variety of spiritual formation topics. Erin lives in Southern California with her husband and their four marvelous children. |